7 Love re-attributes
When 2 people come together in a relationship, its always never easy. There will clash of differences in personalities, perspectives, way of doing things and yes, even expectations. Jon and I really treasured the relationship God has given to us, so we came up 7 re attributes (according to the Holy Bible, our guide) in managing this relationship :)Nevertheless, in a relationship, one golden reminder: "Less expectations, More grace."
There is nothing sweet in relationships but the reality and practicality of two in love coming together, protecting, treasuring and caring for one another.
Down..down..down
I need a break. I am tired.
Yesterday night, i slept at 2plus. I can't sleep with all the noise. I look terrible for a few days already. I have gotten irritated by those noise and I went out trying to "settle" it. I couldn't stand it.
he will lose my respect. Does it have to go this way? I know i don't have to take it seriously. I easier to 'honor' without experiencing it.
You would have told me that i should expect it, get use to it. Why should i?
My leader, my comforter :)
You are such a wonderful leader and example, and someone i could lean on.
~never fails to express his love for me
~protects me
~never respond in anger to me even though he is angry
~tries his best to care and provide for me
~leads by godly example
~takes responsibility of all my needs (including spirituality)
~always sends me home even though he doesn't stays near and doesn't have his own transport
~Prays for me, my work and my family everyday :)
Jonathan = God's gift.
Indeed, you are God's gift to me. Well, God promised me that He will bless me with someone who will love and cherish me, that we will be instruments in His Kingdom.
You are my very best :) Love ya so much
What does it look like to honor our parents?
I used to think that I was pretty alright in honoring my parents. I mean after such a long time of mess, God truly brought about a changed relationship with my mum and dad. I felt I could esteem, care and love them more than before.
Today, i ponder again after going through some horrible nights. I still ponder deeply, still shiver alittle bit after thinking about it.
1) How do you not go into a stage of INDIFFERENCE with your parents?
If you stay with your parents all these while, you will reach to a point of indifference. It means, you get on with your life then, they with theirs. You don't really bother about their life. Sometimes, its even nice to NOT have them around. Is that really honoring them as what the Lord has commanded? You don't even bother their existence until something major happens. Because i don't stay with my parents for a long time, i know about this "indifference". But now, I had a worser issue. I am scared when my dad comes back.
2) How do you not ARGUE with them?
We all know that we are not always right..and our parents too. And, we will always try to insist our points. It can be irritating to have parents who nags non stop. Even if you try your best to do what pleases them, it never seem to be enough. I am really not sure whether its the mentality, culture upbringing or that, parents are usually like this. But, to be wrong infront of their children is something quite embarassing for parents. They want to appear right. For so long, they have been telling you what to do, to guide you. Once we reach a certain age where we want to make decisions on our own, i guess parents don't feel so safe about it.
My simplest solution is to NOT ARGUE, and keep quiet. (even if they are at wrong or saying something terrible) I seriously help the situation alot. In my case, my parents know that they are wrong actually. I just don't want to embarass them.
3) To show LOVE?
This is tough especially for Asia culture. We are terribly shy people and for our parents, to show love is to give money monthly and provide for them. That's how they show their love to us. If you can, that would be good. (even a token would be good; but they will nag still.) Sometimes, i know you don't even feel like showing love....and simply just want to ignore the fact that showing love to our parents is a responsibility of a child. I find this aspect difficult actually. Am working on this too. I think there are tips:
1) Eat dinner with them?
2) Do house work?
3) Be there for family gatherings?
4) Call them?
5) Buy things for them?
6) Talk to them?
7) Listen to them; give them your attention? (Don't give advice at all)
Any tips to contribute?
Those were the days.
I suddenly remembered my days in Polytechnic. I thought, compared to Secondary school days, I was much reserved and quieter, and i didn't quite fit in.
I was in Temasek Polytechnic, Design school pursuing a degree in Interactive Media Design. To me, it was God's grace for me to get into the course. There were only 75 seats in that course. In order to qualify for the course, you need to go through an creative test and interview. I seriously think i didn't do well for the creative test. Compared to the rest, i am not creative.
When i was waiting for my turn to be interviewed, i saw the others bringing their drawings and paintings. Some were really very good. :( Then, i compared to mine. AW. Let the ground swallow me! I knew i couldn't go into an engineering course. My O level results was quite bad. Only 4 passes!! Actually, i couldnt qualify for MOST courses! Well- I just prayed and asked God to help me. Immediately, there was a peace that settles in. :) God is good to me. He gave the place in design school for me.
Well. I didn't really fit in to all the rest. But, Jennis Li was the first friend i met. I am somehow attracted to her because she was quiet and different. We clicked :) Afterwhich, Jennis and Melissa...we became clicks. We were called the umbrella ladies. Hahaa..because Jennis would always carry an umbrella around. She wants to be fair!! We were weird trio~Someone commented seeing us together. Yet, we clicked. :)
Jennis was the cool gal. She pierces her chin and had a great sense of design and ideas. Her style was cool, retro :)
Melissa was the nurturing Christian gal. She draws very very well. :) Everyone calls her "Mama Lemon.." Cause she look really nurturing. :) And, she is so good with her visuals.
ME? I am the odd one. They say i look brave and daring. :) Yep. I am the story-video girl. Many many stories in my head...but i suck at design.
We are the umbrella ladies and we dreamt dreams. We wanted to go to Germany to study.... :) I dreamt of doing stuff together :) For Jennis and Melissa, they would want to further their design studies in Germany..studying the language too :) How romantic!! For me, I like film and would want to study that :) OR, just to try working in overseas. :) HA.
Guess what happened to us after 5 years.....?
Jennis....She is REALLY in Germany studying design! I am not sure what she is majoring. I guess, in her blood, it's really for the beautiful things and to make things more beautiful :)
Melissa. She is in Australia studying nutrition :) What a difference! This gal got talent. She can design, draw, play sports well, cook well and now, she is going to determine people's diet :)
ME? You know what is in my blood. I guess the poor, oppressed, needy and community will always be in my blood. That's what i am living and dying for.
We all dreamt dreams. Miss you, gals. Hope we can catch up again :)
AIP blues.
OOOooooo...feeling blues about AIP.
"The Lord only builds a bridge of faith directly under the feet of a faithful traveler. He never builds the bridge a few steps ahead, for then it would not be one of faith. We live by faith, not by sight." ~ Streams in the Desert.
If you kinda know me, you would have known that I am planning some youth stuff + Media&entertainment. I reached to the "blues." I know what I am supposed to do, but, I am alittle stuck. Questions come by......
a) I don't have a pool of media/entertainment people to start off with.
b) Coming up with a youth mentoring w/o the these people's input & the skills training part is abit raw.
c) I need inner/outer/heavenly strength & motivation to do what i ought to do. To research, to read what i research, to think and design, to use my brain.
d) my personal deadline is within these few months. By dec, i should be linking up to that school. By January next year, we should start something.
e) Is it the right time to start because i am alone?
f) But, i can't shake off the responsibility and burden from the Lord.
g) Uncle Chris Tan comes to my mind......
h) OKIE. I don't know what to do.
i) But, i am still so super excited over it. I WANT to do it.
j) But, i have nothing to start with.
GOSH. see my thoughts?
Being alittle Blue-ie. I need encouragement. I need partners-at-work together. I need God.