~Marriage in God's eyes
"And the LORD God said, "it is not good for a man to be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him."
"And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam, and he slept; and He took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh in its place."
"Then the rib which the LORD God had taken from man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man. And Adam said: "This is now bone my bones and flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman Because she was taken out of a man."
According to Jewish tradition, God made woman not from man's head to lord over him, nor from his feet to be trampled under by him, but from his side to be equal to him, from under his arm to be protected by him, from near his heart to be loved by him.~How beautiful, isn't it?
And, as I read this...there is a sweetness in my heart. How about a woman's role to man? What do you think when God took a rib from man's. Why from man? Why not the dust like the man? Maybe, God made woman from man's rib to be equal to him, to belong to him, to regard, respect and submit to him? What do all the men think?
I understood about the world's ideology of relationships and love. In fact, to illustrate how much i understood, i was giving advice and counsel to peers of my age eversince 16 years old.
But, only this year, God has personally taught me about His perspective of love and marriage. All along was my ideas but this year, as i surrendered and made Him LORD, He personally taught me through these lessons. Yes, He personally taught me. I am truly blessed.
I didn't like when girls regard themselves as princesses and men must treat them like one to show that they are valued and loved. Surely, your worth is more than all these. I read a young girl's blog, she said she can't wait to get into a relationship and said "surely you must treat me like a princess." Sorry ladies if I spoilt your idealogy of love and princessdom. Men are not slaves, you know? They are our leaders, God's ordained over us and should be treasured, respected and loved..despite of their sin and our disappointments. Isn't God so gracious and faithful to us too? And, shouldn't we be also to our men?
What would i really love or think?
~God is in the relationship. It means He is the LORD. He must or I wouldn't want to be in one.
~Right person. A friend said that it's not a hving the right person but how you manage the relationship and build it to last. I beg to differ and saying that it must be a balance. He must also be the right person too or you can be in a relationship with anyone.
~For him to love me beyond me, treasure me because I am his [not to rule over me or neglect me..], committed and faithful to me..
~I will choose to respect, love, be faithful, submit and follow him. His family will be my family. Who he loves, i will love. Where he chooses to go, i will follow.
~Not to give each other up [it's hard but with God, it can be. God never gave us up, isn't it?]
~To always choose forgiveness [ there will always be quarrels, hard times and circumstances]
Feelings don't last. If feelings are gone, what will keep the relationship going?
Feelings don't last. But, love does. And love does only because you made to choice to always commit and love him. That's unconditional.
Some Christians complained: "Christians cannot divorce that why we have no choice but to stick to our life partners." Well, there are really hard situations that made us lament over this fact. However, it is not about you but about him [your spouse] that you choose for your lifetime. Look at him in God's lenses...=) he is a child of God and make a choice for him and God's ways.
Relationships is not about yourself and your needs only.
So, princesses, I hope i didn't throw a wet blanket at you.
God's princess is not the world's princess.
In love with you..,
Princess Dawn =)